“I met Ian online. He spelled everything so well - I said to myself: “This is the man for me.” We spent most of our first chat talking grammar. I knew I wanted to see him again. He said coolly: “I like to keep my cards close to my chest.” But he rang me the next day.”— Mark Gatiss about his husband, (via static-white-sound)
There are lots of shouts of “it gets better”, and “stay strong”, and “we love you”. But when I put myself back in time to when I was being bullied— none of those things would have helped me.
Yes, absolutely— it does get better! But when you are being physically and psychologically tortured, it is difficult to remove yourself from the pressingness of the moment at hand!
Here’s how I dealt with bullying: I cried, I hated myself, I hated my life. I didn’t deal with it; I survived it, but I never dealt with it. So here are two tips from someone with lots of experience— one: it’s not about you, it has nothing to do with you. It’s about the assholes doing it to you. And, two: your job is not to deal with it. Your job is to survive it, which you can do, because it will end. And then, yes, it will get better.